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♥ Thursday, February 19, 2009 ♥

*Beware* It's going to be a VERY LONG entry...heex...what our MAster Coach,Pete emailed all the coaches. AM I aloow to post this in my blog? Will Pete scold mew if I post his email here? Isit consider Plagerism? Heex... =p But i don't care. Learn from him. Haas...Sometimes it's good to learn e bad things..heex.. =p

What Pete emailed to all the coaches below...Maybe after reading this entry you will feel like attending PAtterns oF Excellence Module 1 so that u will grow from there....believe me that's what I did & it helped. Believe it or not =) Caoching brings u up to even a higher level... =)

Ultimately, at the end of this all, I leave it to the team to decide, like I have always done.

Some of you wrote...well I read it out loud to myself and thought I will be kinda offended if I was some of the people out there. I will brush it aside if I am one of those experienced coaches who have nothing more else to learn from coach training and think it's time for them to relax and they can just come by during POE and be able to make an impact. Some of these friends come by and get rudely shocked by how some of the newer coaches are doing things better or doing things just as they should but seemingly so effortlessly. They tell stories about how tough coach training was and how Pete was so much more of a Bastard back then. They say how come the discipline is so...what you call that....slack maybe?

Well I thought maybe it's a good time for these people to come in and mentor/guide the new people and learn a thing or two about how to transfer the stuff they learnt. See from a meta-perspective how you can be an invisible force to influence change in coaches, participants and trainers alike :-)

Oh yes a lot of you are as competent as a coach should be, no doubt about it, so you come in and watch from a distance and shake your head knowingly (or pretend at least :-P) about the missed opportunities that some of your coaching friends had to impact their participants. Some of you might be thinking: "I wish I had the same passion (and ignorance?) to commit my time and sacrifice my rest and sleep. My days are over, it's time for them to suffer."

Some of you hung around and have no significant improvements over the years.. Some have been missing for a long time and bless these guys for pursuing a rich and bountiful life they have enriched our lives in ways we will never know fully. Some became disillusioned coz behind the glamour of wearing that black t-shirt that marked you a coach is a bunch of arduous tasks of unlearning, adjusting, stretching,etc etc. It's committing 4 nights for training and 4 days for coaching. Many books are recommended and not read, many techniques are learnt and not practised, many participants are inspired and not motivated, many coaches are motivated and took no actions.

I am not gripping, I just lost comrades along the way. Not every loss is sad for me. Some I am glad for them. Some I am glad for myself coz I can't fathom why the fuck they choose to coach when they are so brittle or broken or broke. Some I don't really care. I want to put my focus on those who are still believing.

Every coach training and POE coaching is different coz all the people there are different. Generally a new batch of coaches bring in new ideas and the ones who 'survived' and stayed on are either flexible or committed or plain dumb.

Anyone can be put to the test, be in the spotlight, be made a learning aid, be used as an example, be raised to high heaven, be thrown into the Abyss, be a protagonist in my ever expanding range of metaphorical stories, be included or left out of loops, be a target for abuse, be earmarked for bigger roles, be put down for inflated egos, be corrected, maimed, framed, ranged, and what else not in coach training so that you become a good coach to abusive and unappreciative participants. It's all done in a measured and controlled manner even though I push and push and push.

We took a gamble in the 1st coach training and blazed through Steel Rod without anything more than a warm-up induction and a quick briefing by an experienced coach in each group. That means two things:

We just pushed the standard higher. This will be a reference of how fast we can learn Steel Rod Induction, and we didn't even follow the standard script....just stick to counting ...6 you become a steel rod.

We are definitely going to start sharing all the advance stuff (without giving away Mod 2 activities) especially things related to or outside the spectrum of NLP. We are dabbling with EFT, CBT and the like. We will likely to cover energy-work as a result of this accelerated pace. I am excited for the new coaches.

It is my experience that newbies who only attended one training is not likely to be as elevated as we want them to be. My expectation is that you are committed and ready in the eyes of the rest of the team like Shun Jian said. You will realise that I cover all major events in Mod 1 every bloody coach training. Technically, one coach training is all you need but realistically, I prefer to have you for 4 sessions so that we can properly map your profile so that we can help you stretch and challenge you in the most appropriate manner. It's also good that you can fully utilise all the time to build alliance and good relationship with all in the team coz if it has to come down to voting who stays in or out of the team, you stand a better chance.

OK this is getting longer than it should and I wonder how many of you actually get this far. My stand since I started coach training is the same: the Coaching Team welcomes everyone who have done Mod 1 and/or Mod 2 to come learn and share and be a guinea pig. Whether you get inducted into the Team that coaches the current POE or not is dependant largely on the PD and APD. I do have the final say and I mostly will respect the 'command decision'

I prefer all newbies and those who have been away from coaching POE for 3 batches to attend all coach trainings. I expect all who have not attended the current training to understand be able to do all of the things I cover. In the past we had covered Rapport in detail. We are 1.5 years into getting Well-formed Outcome (WFO) into our bones. That's half of the 4 pillars of NLP covered. We are stuck with WFO until we have a bunch of people resource who can do it even while half asleep. Not much training on Sensory Acuity due to that bottle-neck. We have not pushed our Flexibility to the max yet.

I expect mutual support among the coaches. I expect you to walk talk and think like a seasoned NLP Practitioner. We have no patience for low self-esteem. If you have low self-esteem, go deal with it yourself. We expect no less than your best. We expect you to take your coach identity and capabilities into your life outside AKLTG. I expect you to find out how to do some of the things I demonstrated in class but never explained in clear linear fashion. You tell me what I did and I will tell you how I did those and maybe why if I am in a good mood. I expect you people to be in agreement with each other.

IF you find me antagonistic or have no patience with the way I set the training up coz too many things are left unexplained or you don't have a healthy self-image and sense of humour, please stay out. The trainers have resigned to the fact that I have a problem getting everyone to like me. My training style is apparently provocative and I do dig deep and tear open old wounds or make new ones. That's just me I seek your understanding but offer no apologies. If everyone comes for all the training, I don't have to resort to this. This is the best way I know how and those who stuck to the end benefits coz then most of the loops opened are closed by the end of Mod 2.

Before it gets any longer, Just wanna say thanks to all you people for allowing me to indulge in my passion. Lastly, if you have an incessant need to irritate someone else, go deal with it yourself; if you feel offended by the tone of this email or any other in this thread, go deal with it yourself.

We are going to save POE so that we still have a playground. We help get people in the door and maintain the quality of their experience.

For all those who are offended....go fuck yourself or ask the spider for permission coz the 4 fishes went to sea while the horse raced to come back to the same spot. You could have left it at the bank but you are still carrying it with you. This too, shall pass. All I ever did was to tell you "giddy-up!" and you found your way home to the you who is at your very best. I know where to tap.

See you when I see you on Wednesday. It's not the length it's not the size, it's how many times you can make it rise.

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